The Do’s and Don’ts of being single!!!

Hello ladies and gents,

It has been quite a while since I made a relationship/dating post to guide you young eagles to relationship success. Well if you missed my guiding light (and I am sure you have 😉 ), never fear Nella is here. I have returned to save you all.

Dating is an art and should be appreciated as such. It requires earnest practice and eagerness in learning about yourself and the other person. It requires some of your precious time and in the end you still may not be a grandmaster but you’ll be a little better than you were yesterday.

Like the title says, I’m giving you a list of do’s and don’ts when it comes on to dating. Let’s begin:

1) Practice Your Dating Skills

“None of us is born knowing how to be in a relationship. Malcolm Gladwell, in his best-selling book Outliers, argues that virtually every skill can be mastered, if it’s practiced for 10 years. He writes: ‘The tennis prodigy who starts playing at six is playing in Wimbledon at 16 or 17. The classical musician who starts playing the violin at four is debuting at Carnegie Hall at 15 or so.’ View being single as practice for being in a relationship. Don’t expect to have the skills to be in a relationship right away.”
2) Learn from the Mistakes (and Successes) of Others
“Do be interested. Listen to others and you’ll be amazed by what you learn (about dating).”3) Put Yourself Out There“Don’t feel silly striking up a conversation with a stranger. The only way to meet people is to talk to them — so say hello! Whether it’s a friend’s sibling, the waiter/waitress at your local restaurant or even a cute guy/girl in the park, people are generally more receptive than you think to a friendly greeting. To start the conversation, ask a question.”
 4) Dress Like You’re Not Single 

“Do wear sexy underwear. Who cares if you’re the only one who sees it? The sex appeal it gives you will ooze through, and you’ll feel super sexy and kind of powerful, too. Same goes for cute nightwear to bed.” *This may seem a little female-oriented but if you guys wear clothes that make you feel great as well and take care of your bodies it’s amazing what life can bring.

5) Dating Someone Won’t Change Your Entire Life
“Don’t look for someone to complete you … you’re the only one who can do that.”

8) Stake Out a Good Spot for Meeting New People“Do be a regular—at a bar or restaurant, coffee shop, etc. It’s a great way to meet new people.”

7) Enjoy Your Life Just as It Is, Right Now
“Do spend time dating yourself. Take yourself to dinner, spend the day enjoying your own company, pop into a museum alone and sit down and have a glass of wine by yourself. Too many people are afraid they’ll look pathetic, but in reality a person who does what he/she wants to do when he/she wants to do it looks confident (read totally sexy) to the opposite sex.”

8) Be Open to Taking a Friendship to the Next Level
“Don’t rule out dating close friends — especially those who might have let it slip that they’re attracted to you. There’s always the looming dread of jeopardizing your friendship, but I’ve learned that these are often the most successful, since there is no cheap pretense of seduction — you can feel secure knowing that he likes you for who you really
are.”

9) You Never Know What Romance May Be in Store for You
“Do remember that your life’s plan is not written in stone. It’s written on paper that can be ripped up. Be open to new people and events that weren’t in the plan.”

This is just a little savvy advice that I’ve found to be pretty useful in the dating world. If you have any more advice please feel free to comment below and add your input.

Comments, feedback and suggestions are welcomed!!!

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