Rejection! Who hasn’t experienced that horrible feeling of being rejected? Unfortunately, in life, we are often judged on what we do, how we look or what we say, which leads to either being accepted or rejected, valued or discarded.
Rejection is something that happens to all of us at one point in our lives. The feeling of being rejected may come through a look, a sigh, a comment, gesture, criticism or even silence- like when you apply for a job and you do not get a reply. It may come in various forms and it may come from different people but the end results are usually the same……..someone is hurt.
The feeling that emerges after one is rejected is usually one of low self-worth and lack of confidence in one’s abilities. The deep feeling of being of less value can bring great emotional pain and heartache. The feeling of not measuring up or being good enough can produce a low self-esteem, inferiority and eventually lead to depression.
You’re devastated, of course, and you may even contemplate throwing in the towel and calling it quits. Whether it’s your first or hundredth rejection doesn’t seem to make it any easier. But there are ways of coping with rejection that can speed you through some of the bumpier parts. So before you decide to do something drastic like jump off a cliff or become a deviant of society, try these simple tips to help you cope with your rejection and in the end you will probably feel a whole lot better.
1) Address the pain.
There is no use hiding away in your bed and wallowing in self pity. You’re definitely going to feel a great deal of pain after rejection but it is best if you embrace it rather than hide from it. Rejection hurts but you need to face it, fix it and move on.
2) Avoid needless anguish.
Sometimes you need to know when to keep fighting and when to move on from the current situation. Just relax and let it go and spend your time on more important matters or people in life.
3) Keep occupied and turn the negative into a positive.
As good as it is to face rejection, it is also important that you do not dwell needlessly on it. This can intensify the feeling of pain and rejection and is detrimental to your recovery. Stay occupied. Go out with friends, family or pick up a new activity. Not only does it help you mentally but you may have a life-changing experience as well.
The key thing to remember is that everyone faces rejection. It’s a part of life and relationships. You may feel the burn of the rejection for a few days, weeks or even months to come, but when you keep focused on your goals and maintain a positive outlook on life, you are bound to bounce back and be all the better for it. Learn from your rejection and speak to those who have gained success in the area you wish to be successful in. It will all be ok in the end.
If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence you have won even before you have started. -Marcus Garvey
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