Book Review: The Seven Steps to Closure by Donna Joy Usher

Hey everyone,

I know! I know! I’ve been on an extensive hiatus but I’m back and ready for action. There will be some new changes, new features and oh so much more coming your way.

As part of the new direction I’m taking this blog. Here is a review on an amazing book I recently read.

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Newly divorced and barely employed, Tara Babcock is at a standstill moment in her life. 30 years old, downtrodden and utterly despaired, it’s been almost one year and still she mourns her marriage. The once believed love of her life has left her for none other than her cousin (and I’m not talking that person who is just a family friend who you’ve known so long that you say you’re related. I’m talking her mother’s sister (aunt’s) daughter kind of cousin).

Unfortunately, things seem to get worse before they get better. As Tara tries to make steps to move forward, shocking events occur as her ex-husband, Jake has announced his political career as he runs for Lord Mayor (a fancy way to say a mayor of a major city) of Sydney. And to make matters worse, he also announces his upcoming nuptials to her cousin, Tash. His face plastered everywhere and her constantly feeling miserable, her best gal pals decided the best thing for her to do is to refocus her energy and follow the advice from a magazine article called Closure in Seven Easy Steps. I mean where else does all great advice come from but for the gospel according to Cosmo.

This book chronicles the steps that Tara takes to finally regain control of her life and let me tell you I absolutely love it! Like many of us, having to start over is daunting and quite frankly scary! Tara, for me, embodies what many of us experience when an unexpected life change occurs. The questions that constantly swim around our minds, questioning how we will recover. The feeling of absolute failure and feeling like our options and possibilities are limited. Luckily, she has a strong support system of gal pals and family to help her through the rocky roller coaster of life.

What I truly appreciated about how this book was written is the feeling like you truly are a part of the conversations as they happen. The feeling of walking alongside our main character as she desperately tries to figure out what to do next and who she is after she has spent so much time being a shadow of herself. I also appreciate that as the book progresses, we not only see growth from Tara, but we see growth and changes in the supporting characters as well. A truly pleasurable reading experience.

My Overall Rating: 4.5 Stars

Why you should check it out:

If you like light-hearted fun and adventure, then this is surely a must read. If you’re nursing a broken heart……hey the steps just may help you too. Or if you’re just looking for a good read for the train, airport or anywhere really, then take a looksy. I promise you it won’t disappoint!


One Day…

@bubblegumwhore When people mess up, they know it. Even if they stroll away like nothing happened. Even if they act as though they were never in the wrong. Maybe you start to wonder if they truly believe that; if they’ve rewritten history to come across as the good guy in this. What if you’re the…

via One Day He’s Going To Realize He Screwed Up (But You Won’t Care Anymore) — Thought Catalog

It’s About The Practice (Not Pursuit) Of Happiness — Thought Catalog

Mitya KuFor the majority of my life, I viewed the concept of happiness as a dichotomous switch – either you are or you aren’t. And to a certain extent, I suppose that still holds true. But the more detrimental implication of this way of thinking was that I saw happiness as an end goal to…

via It’s About The Practice (Not Pursuit) Of Happiness — Thought Catalog

Prisoner of Relationships Past

Blessings my fair people,

When it comes to relationships, I’ve realized that there are 2 ways that we can be prisoners of our past relationships which can affect our present ones. The first is to have such an amazing relationship that no one can measure up to the invisible stick we keep dangled in front of our other suitors and the other is the opposite dynamic and having a shrew of bad relationships that makes you question your taste in men. I’ve had the fortune or misfortune of having both. I have remained a constant prisoner of my relationships past for many years.


A prisoner of my own mind and heart. Having experienced the best of both worlds, I know what it is I want but in my pursuit of happiness I tend to get hurt and overwhelmed by the lack of forthcoming gentlemen to fit the mold I’ve shaped out. What is it that I truly want in a man? Emotionally? Spiritually? Physically? Intellectually? Beyond? I could write an essay on each topic but the simple truth I want someone to love me everlastingly, grow with me spiritually, be my intellectual equal or smarter and impart knowledge on me (and being my equal doesnt me he has to be versed in the same things I do but rather just be able to hold a great conversation), being there supporting and caring for me. I want to feel that earth-shattering, life-changing love I’ve felt before and I don’t think I will settle for less. And that’s where I remain a prisoner of a great relationship because it’s hard for me to picture other than what I’ve already experienced. This has also led me to my being a prisoner of other relationship experiences because since then I’ve been disappointed continuously by the others that have come.


My search for love complemented by my myriad of experiences seems to put me in these shackles and I can’t seem to break free. I want to live beyond the barriers I’ve placed and experience what life has to offer but my fear erodes me and I remain enslaved. This was my thought process until about last night (and admittingly I still think like that sometimes) but I watched a short film of a couple getting married and it dawned on me that maybe I’m not where I’m supposed to be indefinitely at the moment but that’s just fine because it’s where I need to be. If I don’t have bad experiences I can’t appreciate the wonderful ones and if I didn’t have the great experience I would never truly understand my capacity to love above myself and to be selfless in my efforts. So until my prince comes, I’ll be enjoying what God has planned for me presently.


Much Love,

The Kingstonian


I Should Be Engaged.

Duly Noted.

I want to be engaged this year. As of yesterday I’ve been on this earth for more than twenty-three years, and I think it’s about time for me to be engaged.

I’ve been asking people on my Home Team what one word they want to hold true for 2016, and when the question was finally reciprocated by my friend Sanford, I couldn’t come up with anything. I hadn’t found one that quite fit just yet.

I would  say seemingly meaningful words aloud to see if their meanings would hold any significance for what I want this next year to be.

I rustled up words like depth or rest or value and announced them to myself in the car or in the shower or on my walk to work. Nothing was clicking.

Until I drove to Joshua Tree yesterday morning, and that’s when a word so unexpected was whispered into the silence…

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